"Selfish" Moms Wearing Makeup

I notice that many women who have been trained to discount themselves feel better when they attack those they secretly envy with buried resentment by giving gratitude to the 'unselfish moms' out there who settle for dark circles instead of makeup and ponytails instead of flowing hair, sore bodies instead of healthy ones. I am sorry ladies, but take your resentment somewhere else and take a walk in someone else's shoes for once. 

You whine, moan, gossip about and pick on those 'selfish' moms you judge without ever taking a moment getting to know the lives you are attacking. You get together, with all the like of your misery and you GOSSIP about these people, ADDING to their pain, not helping ANYONE!

If you spent that time doing each other's hair and working out, you wouldn't feel so attached to those dark circles, my friends. Think for a moment that for many of these 'selfish' women you attack for their self care, there is often a survivor's story of lifelong struggle just below that surface, that you might never even notice because these survivors, these powerful women are some of the true Olympians of Life.

Sometimes pretty hair and under eye concealer are the electrolytes that give these women the strength to continue for the next mile within lives of great challenge you don't even know about and the reason you don't even know about it is because these strong women know that commiseration is useless, extra weight that gets you nowhere when the clock is ticking and the finish line through the pain is in sight. Many of these women keep their sight PAST the pain...so they dress for it.

To SOME moms of challenging children, the illusion of a smiling face in the mirror, a hairdo and a healthy, maintained figure is what it mentally takes to not decide to just give up halfway through the marathon of what feels like undeserved torture. You self-haters choose to judge that the challenging children are a result of her selfishness, rather than her self love just being a different choice of life pain management while you glorify your own.

Having been a self-loather through a painful marriage who became a self nurturer through the pain, I have witnessed both worlds. I have been loved as a loather and loathed as a lover by the self-loathers (say that 3 times fast!).

Women who let themselves go can be a thousand times more cruel than those who desire to be a bright flower on the surface of the secret war they battle right under their pretty noses that often become the drippy, crying noses behind closed doors because THEY don't want to bring YOU down.

Sorry for the outburst, but there are literally GANGS of these women and they pick on me and I just want it to stop. If you only knew what I have been through in my life without ever even having been homeless (thank God), you would be forever speechless. Be nice, be friendly for God's sake...even and sometimes especially to the mom with the pedicure and matching lipstick.